3 Years of Motherhood: Navigating New Phases and Balancing Life's Demands

My son, Braxton, just turned 3, and it's astonishing to reflect on how much has changed over the last three years. When he turned 2, I thought I was getting the hang of motherhood and thought by now I could ease back into focusing more on my career. However, this past year has shown me that each phase brings new challenges and rewards. Instead of finding it easier to balance work and family, I've been leaning more toward family life and the idea of being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), or perhaps even semi-retired like my husband has crossed my mind several times. Each day, I’m taking things step by step and trusting God to guide my decisions.

Reflecting on the Past Year

The past year has been transformative. When Braxton turned 2, I was amazed by his rapid growth and development. Now, at 3, he is even more curious, independent, and hilarious! Watching him explore and learn has brought me so much joy, but it also means I'm constantly adjusting my expectations and parenting strategies.

Before Braxton, my world revolved around my career and personal goals. Now, my priorities have shifted significantly. My family’s well-being and happiness are my primary focus. I’ve become more patient, compassionate, and selfless, but also more attuned to my own needs for self-care and support.

The Juggling Act of Motherhood and Career

Balancing my role as a mother and an orthodontist-practice owner has been a complex juggling act. Before motherhood, my career was my main focus. I loved growing my practice, helping my patients, working on professional development, and enjoying spontaneous vacations. However, motherhood has reshaped my priorities and time management.

I’ve learned to delegate more, put down things that aren’t truly necessary, and rely on my team to keep the practice running smoothly, even when I’m not there. Efficiency has become key in managing my work hours, allowing me to spend quality time with my family.

Embracing Family Life

This past year, I've found myself more drawn more to family life. The idea of becoming a stay-at-home mom or a semi-retired dentist has crossed my mind multiple times. Being fully present for Braxton’s milestones, jokes, and everyday moments has become more important to me than ever. I read a quote the other day that said: “75% of all the time you will ever spend with a child is complete by the time they reach 12 years old. And by the time they turn 18, well, 90% of your parent-child time together is already spent.” This made me incredibly sad but also was fuel to really prioritize parenthood.

I’ve started to say no to non-essential commitments and focus on activities that bring joy and fulfillment. Prioritizing self-care has also been crucial in maintaining my energy and presence for my family.

Burnout in Dentistry: A Special Challenge

Burnout is a significant issue in many professions, and dentistry is no exception. The physical and emotional demands of the job, coupled with the responsibility of running a practice, can be overwhelming. Over the past year, I’ve felt this pressure more intensely as I try to balance professional and personal responsibilities.

Recognizing the signs of burnout early and addressing them is essential. For me, this has meant considering a reduced work schedule and exploring the possibility of a more flexible, family-focused lifestyle.

Practical Ways I am Combating and Avoid Burnout

Setting Boundaries: Clearly defining work hours and personal time. Ensuring that I have time dedicated to family and self-care.
Delegating and Collaborating: Relying on my team at work and sharing responsibilities at home. Not being afraid to ask for help.
Practicing Self-Care: Regularly engaging in activities that rejuvenate, whether it’s exercise, hobbies, or quiet time alone.
Staying Connected: Maintaining a support network of friends, family, and professional peers who can provide encouragement and advice.

Trusting the Journey

Each phase of life brings new challenges and opportunities. This past year, I’ve learned that balancing career and family is an ongoing process, not a destination. Trusting God to guide my decisions has provided me with peace and direction. While the idea of stepping back from my career to focus more on family is daunting, it’s also filled with possibilities for growth and deeper connections.

As I navigate these changes, I’m taking things day by day, grateful for the journey and excited for what lies ahead.